birthday-william-dudley-pelley:
birthday-william-dudley-pelley:
birthday-william-dudley-pelley:
Can’t deny it..
true, even for women. But you guys should not be afraid of us hurting you. Like most of us got 0 intention to hurt you
Yeah well we are still afraid
Then that’s your problem if you are a bunch of babies who doesn’t want to face things in a mature way.
Thats..exactly why we are afraid? We are terrified of ridicule
Ridiculous is that fear. So that’s all up to you guys.
Open up which is NEVER ridiculous, or keep hiding and messing up things. You will end up regretting.
Well fear isn’t rational but poor relationships,being told to man up,terrible partners,crippling anxiety have ways of making people afraid
We all face fear but the thing is to face it.
Boys out there if you ever say to your girlfriend in a calm, honest tone: “Ey, look I feel that we have some kind of problems in this area, I feel anxious about (…) when you(…). May be we should find another way of solving it. How do you feel about it?”
NO woman EVER would say a things such as: “Oh. So you feel like that? What a baby! You should be the men”
And if she does, you better find a better gfriend who respects you as a human and not as a label(bfriend)
Most likely to happen: “But I feel this way too” “I feel (…) when you(….) so I just(…)”
Because the less you speak about it the more angry we get and the easier we shout.
So better to face your fear and talk than shutting up while all the anger is accumulating in you and in her, ending in fights if not a split.
It’s not mature neither to your personal development neither to the relationship
@birthday-william-dudley-pelley you need to get rid off that idea that you need to man up. Is not helping you, your relationships or even society.
Man, I’m gonna be real with you, the only reason I scrolled through your blog was because you claimed that there was some version of this thread that would clarify everything… is this supposed to be that??
No woman ever would call a man a baby or tell him to “be the man”? Yeah, no, you’re wrong. Abusive and manipulative women are a thing, and men (and women) get hurt by them, and like all trauma victims men can also put up walls and close off emotionally when victimized by abusive women.
You immediately follow that “NO woman would EVER” with “and if she does” like… okay, so you do agree that some women are terrible? But I still gotta disagree with your reasoning, thinking of somebody as a label isn’t the only reason that a woman may mistreat her partner.
“The less you speak the more angry we get and the easier we shout.” wow umm… maybe try not, y'know, shouting at your partner at all? Yeah, I think that’s a good first step on the road to not abusing your boyfriend. A good second step is not blaming him for your angry outbursts. Learn to control your anger and your urge to call people babies for opening up about their feels, and maybe then they’ll start to feel more comfortable talking to you… if you make yourself an aggressive, patronizing, and berating presence then yeah, people aren’t gonna wanna open up to you.
It’s hard for anyone to open up emotionally, especially people who’ve been victimized in the past, but you can’t just go around calling people babies for feeling fear or struggling with expressing their emotions. Even though I fully agree that communication is important, it’s earned by showing somebody that they are supported and safe and loved, not by calling them a baby and threatening them with anger and shouting if they don’t open up.
Your first comment also immediately assumes that it’s straight men finding this hard in romantic relationships because of a fear of women, and that’s really just a massive oversimplification and erasure, and that stains this entire conversation from the get go. Like I said, everyone can have trouble opening up, in friendships, in relationships, to family, even to mental health professionals - the trouble men seem to especially have doing so could be linked to our massively larger suicide rate. Maybe this is an issue to be taken seriously, instead of telling men to stop being babies lest the women get angry and shout at them? And maybe stop blaming people for the fact that they’ve been told their whole lives - by their mothers and other women as much as anyone else - to “man up” and are thus having some trouble letting go of that? He’s not hurting society by struggling and fearing, society and individual people hurt him.
(Also telling somebody with anxiety to just face their fear is like… not how mental health conditions work and is basically the equivalent of “man up” so like… yeahhhh, you’re constantly throughout this post reinforcing this shit bruh.)
~ Vape
Yeah a lot of this shit was just victim blaming across the board. It’s just an endless tirade of, “we wouldn’t be so manipulative and shitty if you spoke up more,” with a heavy dose of totally not saying it in those words, buttttt “You neeed to maaaNNN up! And YoU NEd TO GeT OVEr YOr ConCEP of BeINNNG toL TO MAN UP!”
Nah bitch, women are complicit in this shit and frequently so. Women gotta own up to their bullshit and accept accountability for it, and only then will this problem start to mend.Exactly!
Plus trizentp’s first reblog immediately implies that the only reason that we don’t
man upface our fears is because we’re scared of women.Rather than “Hmm, maybe being told not to express emotions, having their wants ignored, having been victimized and then laughed at for having been victimized, seeing that happen to other men, having untreated mental health issues, and all of the other fuckery that men have to endure kinda coulda contributed to men typically not being as emotionally articulate as women?” the line of thinking is just “Clearly men are simply scared of women.”
As if that’s the only time that this shit affects guys, when the suicide rates and the lack of men getting adequate mental health treatment strongly suggest otherwise.
~ Vape
People like Tri will say this shit and then call it misogyny when men spend more time with their male friends than their girlfriends.
Rather than expecting men to express how they feel in the same way as we do it as women. Perhaps we ought to be letting men teach us how they do it for themselves.
This great website has lots of useful information.
https://www.bolde.com/13-ways-guys-express-love-without-words/
And….
“Because the less you speak about it the more angry we get and the easier we shout.“
And shouting at people is fucking abusive and why people don’t open up.
And guys deal with emotion differently than women – neither is wrong, but they are different.
People like
trizentp
are why I’ve pretty much never opened up to anybody about any problem I’ve ever had and instead just hid it away. I know it’s not good, and at this point in my life I’m seeing the consequences more and more clearly, but it is what it is.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but a selfie turned out to be priceless for one Texas man.
Cristopher “CJ” Precopia faced 99 years in prison for a violent crime he said he didn’t commit – and only a photo he took of himself was able to clear his name.
Precopia, 21, of Williamson County, said he was confused when police arrested him on Sept. 22, 2017. Officials said his ex-girlfriend, who was not named, claimed Precopia broke into her home, assaulted her and then slashed an “X” into her chest with a box cutter during a brutal Sept. 20 attack, KVUE reported.
Precopia said he couldn’t recall the last time he spoke to the woman, whom he dated in high school.
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But he was placed behind bars at the Williamson County Jail and charged with burglary of a habitation with the intent to commit other crimes – a felony that could have landed him life in prison, the Washington Post reported.
His parents posted the $150,000 bond and then set out on a mission to prove his innocence.
Cristopher’s mother, Erin Precopia, remembered the evening of the alleged attack she was with her son at the Renaissance Austin Hotel. She also had proof – a selfie taken at 7:02 p.m. CST. The accuser told authorities she was attacked at 7:20 p.m. at her Bell County residence – about 70 miles from the hotel where Precopia was with his mother.
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Precopia’s lawyer, Rick Flores, told the Washington Post his client was lucky he had a “rock-solid alibi.”
“He was very fortunate that she chose a date and time that he just happened to have a rock-solid alibi for,” Flores said. “He and I have talked many times about how lucky he is, whether you believe in a higher power or good old-fashioned luck.”
On June 21, the charge was dropped after Flores provided the evidence to the district attorney’s office.
“We are always willing to listen and examine new information, and that’s exactly what we did in this case,” Bell County District Attorney Henry Garza said.
Precopia’s accuser has not been charged with a crime, KVUE reported.
Precopia told KVUE he is ready to move on and has applied to enlist in the Army.
"I’m ready to actually live my life, the way I want to, without having any kind of worry that this can come back and hurt me,” he said.
*****
Charge this evil, disgusting woman and lock her up. Preferably with the same 99-year sentence he was going to receive.
LET MEN HAVE THEIR OWN MEN ONLY SPACES 2K18!
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If women can have their own spaces to talk about women’s things, men should be allowed to do the same for men’s things. Men and boys need their own men only spaces to talk about issues that only those born with XY chromosomes and a penis will relate to and understand.
Hey if a man ever gets really excited and starts explaining something to you that you might already know he’s just excited about it and you should let him be without accusing him of being a misogynistic mansplainer.
